Radiothon

Merry Christmas... Merry Christmas... Merry Christmas...Happy Holiday!! Wow, I am so excited and just at a lost for words because God as done it again! Again! and...AGAIN! In 3 day and a lot of prayer, we raised more than $215,000! Special thanks to STAR 105.7's own, Tommy and Brook, Kelly Iris, and Todd Michaels for telling the message of this great hospital... Helen DeVos Children's Hospital.

I can't explain how a snow day could turn into my best day ever! Not to mention my father-in law brought in the remaining stocking for the NICU babies. Thanks for all the prayers and I have to say I love you Leah for sharing me.

TGBTG

Insight

Its been awhile however, my life has not been that busy.. lol NOT!

God is awesome as always and I need to give him praise for keeping us! We are looking for ways to bless others this Christmas. It has really been on our hearts and we have done a few things, but when we sit back a realized how God has had his hand on us, its just not enough. Any ideas of how we can show God's love this season?

Radiothon is upon me and I'm going to take a cot to Helen DeVos Children's Hospital Foundation because it will become my home. Funny thing is everything is going well! God is good, but so much more to do. I need volunteers to help answer phones on December 17th, 18th, 19th at Celebrations Cinemas South. This is my biggest problem, but God provides!

Make sure you tune into STAR 105.7 on December 17th, 18th, and 19th, and hear the stories of miracle kids from the hospital. It is really neat to have believers (Tommy and Brook, and Todd Michaels) helping me with this. We have a big goal however, I know God will move and show himself in a way, that in the end we will just have to laugh and applaud him again.

Baby is doing well and we fix his crib this weekend. We are going to start getting the frames on the wall, and I am working on her toy chest.. may need help. We are excited about all the kicking and rough housing baby is doing to Leah, lol. Keep praying for us because we need each and every prayer possible to make it.

TGBTG

little blurb I found un-published

Here is my little blurb that I wanted to share.

Now that it is snowing out here in MI, I am getting excited for the holidays and the things to come. I am excited to replenish/restore/recreate/create/establish holiday traditions for our family. Its an exciting time to think about what we are thankful for and how God has truly blessed us throughout the year.

Had to do it....

I know a lot of people won't agree with is email! However, for a kid who never thought in his lifetime, we would be able to put aside slavery, racism, and the invisible ceiling of where black people and women can go... we did it November 4th. American, yet again, has made history and elected the first black man into office... congratulations Barack Obama!

Now, what is really funny to me about people is the way we react is things. Example #1, gas prices are now down to a low and we are praising the oil gods like they did us a favor. But if you look back, the gas was this way only about a year ago. The barrel of oil price is lower however, the price of gas is higher than it was a year ago. Why are we happy, when actually the oil companies are still making profit on the barrel of oil, and still charging us more. Gas should be clearly under 2 bucks... if the reason why it got so high in the first place, was the cost of the barrel. Why are we not mad?

If you look around the world, the diversity of leaders in other nations are people of color, women, and minorities. America is the land of choice and freedom right? Just got our first taste of diversity in office and some American can predicting the end of the world. Why is America so behind and not upset about it?

His nation is on it way to hell in a hand basket. Schools are bad, banks can't be trusted, corporations are fail because of bad decisions, and CEO's are leaving with millions. Why is this behavior acceptable. Where are all those AMERICANS that what to pray!! Why are we not mad about this?

These are not problems that have happen in 2 days....

TGBTG

Does November 4th really matter....

America is on its way to the crapper and we are spending billions to elect someone who really can't do anything for us anyway. Whether it is Big Mac or Barack, this country has moved away from its real ruler anyway. Built on the saying "in God we trust", but do we? No matter who wins the big seat, things are not going to change overnight. We took pray out of school and they are circling out of control. We allow "in your face" sin to mount, in even the laws we pass. Place our God on Wall Street and it seems that its was as strong as the opinion of others. We only cry to our lord when we are attacked or something bad happens. Everything that is happening to us right now can be found in the scriptures:

Proverbs 1:24-26

²⁴Because I have called, and ye refused; I have stretched out my hand, and no man regarded;

²⁵But ye have set at nought all my counsel, and would none of my reproof:

²⁶I also will laugh at your calamity; I will mock when your fear cometh;

We cry out, why has God done this to us... when really I believe its mocking time.

TGBTG

How great is our God!

As I think to myself.... I just think back of the past 6 years of my life. The ups and downs, all in a good way! I am very excited for tomorrow and have been prayerful for a great report. I still believe that this pregnancy will continue to be supernatural... but I am ready to switch my confession to my kid will be an awesome, teachable, God-fearing, lovable, funny, mavericky kid (my list is endless!). I (we) have so many plans and dreams already for our family and it's exciting to dream and plan of how they may (or may not) work out. Its comforting to know as we head to bed that God is in control of today and tomorrow! How great is our God!

Shabach

LJ

One more day.. one more night..

The title says it all about what I'm feeling about tomorrow and the rest of my life. Dream mean something don't they... God I'm excited and in the same breath wanting to control everything! I gonna miss the time I took for granted with my wife, alone. I want a good report about baby, my wife and this supernatural pregnancy. I want a boy, however I still struggle with what God has put before me to handle. My heart wishes for a girl, but the development of my sensitive side scares the nerves right our my skin (even now I'm shaking). We find out in less that 16 hours and the only song I can think of is one more day... Check this song out, Wow!


One more day
One more time
One more sunset, maybe I'd be satisfied
But then again
I know what it would do
Leave me wishing still, for one more day with you

First thing I'd do, is pray for time to crawl
Then I'd unplug the telephone
And keep the TV off
I'd hold you every second
Say a million I love you's
That's what I'd do, with one more day with you

tear,
TGBTG

with thanks

Currently I am sitting up in bed and typing this post with my beautiful wife sleeping and my child kicking her. It is such a great feeling to know that I will be a father in less than 4 months, and a reminder that this new experience does not come with instructions. I know that God has given us everything we could possibly need on earth already... however I pray I don't mess this up. I am so grateful for my wife who has not complained once about carrying that gift. She is a lot stronger than what I give her credit for. Keep praying that this pregnancy continues to be supernatural and that God keep his hand on our family.

the end
TGBTG

Awesome Creator

To think that we are on the earth which in perspective is a golf ball and the sun would be the size of 15 feet across. Somewhere you are on this earth and He takes care of you! How awesome!

Oh, and He is the Creator of all things big and small! This also reminds me how God is in control!

from HaEL... not as cool as EnyaWeD

Well, it's been a while since I have been here so I have a few things to update everyone on. Right now seems like a good time because I have been given maybe a few more minutes to ponder and think about what's going on around me.

My job at NHCA is going well. I have really enjoyed my students and have met some of the parents. I am getting to know my co-workers and establishing new friendships while trying to take the time to maintain the old friendships. I am teaching Earth science, chemistry, biology1 and biology 2. I have already learned so much about my students and their lives, as well as being a better teacher.

I also committed myself to teaching at Davenport University. After a the first week of headaches, I think it will be more smooth in the future weeks and in the coming semesters. I have enjoyed it thus far as well.

I also had a great talk with my lil sorority sister today. I realized I miss my sisters and the everyday college hubbub. I have memories that are fun to remember and can appreciate them while keeping them in the past. I am looking forward to making new memories in the next few months and year!

I'm sure I will be back at some time this week....

Key stokes of EnyaWeD

It's been a while however, we're back (at least DeWayne)! I have not wrote anything about life in about a month... things have really changed in that short of a time. Right now I'm about 13 weeks into watching the making of a baby... yes folks, this will change my life, lol. September is providing me stress because its busy for my school program at work, which is suppose to bring in more than $100 grand!! I have a sore throat to poop, and trying to reach my sensitive side (heaven help me).

Keep praying for my family because we need it! I share some detail with my wife about what I believe God has for me to do with family. You ever stop and wonder why he picked you to do something... realizing that if you just do his will, the setup is done already. I just got a funny feeling that his plan is not going to be easy! What sucks is everything that I'm face with is something that I've been through, going through, or either working through. Just have to get the men to understand that! Men suck but I rather lose face at talking about it, than to lose them.

On a fun note I had man night with Marc and ate a ton of wings... maybe 25! This night was great and relaxing. He decided he wanted to pen a rap. Wise words from my brother in law Vanilla M, and I quote; "My butthole is on fire... Woodchuck is on sale at Meijer... Have fun with Mom." Marc (aka Vanilla M), I am planning to make a full song out of this when my brain does not hurt.

I love hanging out with family and friends! My wife has been a big help in taking care of my sick behind. I love you Leah!

the end
TGBTG

Life

I am really tired as I write this post. I am not only drain physically but also emotionally. Have you ever considered measuring yourself to what you believe in your heart, is your best self. I feel like I constantly fail God because I keep giving into my flesh... so, really I fail God. Lord forgive me to fall short, and the things that I allow my flesh to toss me into.

I really just want to get way!! I should be happy for the LIFE God has given however, I want to run away from it. I want to run away from the exhaustion, and hide from my life duties. I fell run down.

Get over myself.. God has been to good. I'm up now... thanks!

TGBTG

No one else can make me feel the colors that you bring...

I don't have a song to sing or a quote, I just need to tell you that I love you, babe. I know that I haven't been the easiest to deal with and maybe a little frustrating. I am sorry. I love you a lot and I appreciate the things you do for us. I know everything will work out to His plan, and for us to continue in our destiny for His Kingdom business. Thanks babe and i love you, here's to you...

Struggling..... help is around the corner

Left my fear by the side of the road
I hear You speak, won't let go
Fall to my knees as I lift my hands to pray

Got every reason to be here again
Father's love that draws me in
And all my eyes wanna see is a glimpse of You

All I need is You
All I need is You, Lord
Is You, Lord

Relaxing and with so much insight

God is so good!!! I should have used that as my title for this post. I got to hang out with about 30 men from my church in Detroit this weekend. What a blessing... what a time of sharpening each other. I got revelations from so many bothers who spoke into my life. This year is going to be such a blessing for my family. Here is a piece of one confessions that I want to share:

My family will not face any financial captivity; that time is over and God will surely bless us.

This means so much because I know where we are headed and I'm already blessed beyond measure. I can't wait to sow seed next week into the ground of Detroit World Outreach. I got such an expectation of what God will do in our life. I'm so excited that some barriers that I have had problems with will fall down... I got help now.... I'm ready to fight now against things I know I have to remove from my life. Just you wait.

the end
TGBTG

The new doo

With summer raging into the ozone days - I needed a new look... so I donated my hair! It was about time for a new change! I know that d was super excited because of his earlier post...

What's your new song lately?

O SING to the LORD a new song:sing unto the LORD, all the earth. PSALM 96:1

What have you been singing or not singing about lately? There is so much that we can be thankful about!

So many times we start our prayers with requests and forget to first praise HIM and thank HIM for being TRULY awesome GOD in our lives. Let us not forget our Creator, Redeemer, Adonai, Father, Jehovah Jireh...

ljc tgbtg

People....


This could be one of the most happiest day of my life!!!! Thats all I got..

the end

tgbtg

REAlly quiCK

I planning in the next couple of weeks to change this blogs name to "in my world" b/c I feel like I'm dominating the time in this avenue to sharing with the world.

Any who... I am again excited about the direction I'm heading in and knowing that God is still i the driving seat. You know right now, I am kind of disappointed because I know I agreed to something and I don't think it being followed. I feel like your word is bond and if you ask something of someone, then you should carry out the same request.

I am begin to value very different things than I did before. Can people change what they like overnight??? Time seems to becoming more important to me and wanting to spend more time with God. Fellowship with people of the same mind..

I'm off to hanging out with myself... and spending some more time singing to myself. I love SINGING people.

the end
TGBTG

3 in the morning....

Now the first question my wife will ask is why an I up. I DONT REALLY KNOW!! I just felt the need to share how the last few weeks have been going for me. I am so glad Kerri was returned back to us safe, in the US America. Dad and Mark are back from a trip of a lifetime... and G$ returned safe from the great white! To God be the glory for all of those blessings and protection for our family.

All those things are enough to bring me to tears (I could just be very sleepy) because God has been so good to us however, he helped me with a struggle within myself this week. I got to hangout with this kewl kid name Ike and take care of him (his parents must be desperate) and tend to his needs with my wife last week. Prior to even knowing that we would have a chance to watch him, I had been dealing with what I thought was the missing piece in my life. I want a baby... and everyone around us has one or is in the process of a raisin in the pouch. God why not us... except as I fed, held, hug, kissed, read, and prayed with Ike, I realized that I am not ready for a kid. Not because of my parenting skill but because of my husbanding (new word) skill. LEAH I'M SORRY! Thanks Isacc (Ike dawg... throw em up)

I think Leah likes self-help books.. but to tell you the truth I really think the books she bring into the house could be used as council for our lives. We are really protected in who we let speak into our lives. When you have a problem that seems to continue to hard press your second most relationship (marriage) or any relationship for that matter, we should seek advice and council from those we hold in accountability spots in our lives. From the people who have been their and made it past this mark in the road by God's grace.

the end

TGBTG

IMPORTANT????

Priorities

We all have them right? Why does it seem that when we should check them… we don’t? I am so sick and tired of selfish people with the intentions of only taking care of themselves. I’m guilty of it, and working hard to make sure I take time for the things that are important. Those “nouns” may not be around for a long as you think. Keep smiling and praying because we need it bad.

TGBTG

In the power of your love...

This song has been ringing in my spirit for the last couple of days. I know I love to song because it catchy however, it really speaks to me because I so need some renewal in my life. The course does just what it says... and I'm so glad he is in control.

Lord I come to You
Let my heart be changed, renewed
Flowing from the grace
That I’ve found in You
Lord I’ve come to know
The weaknesses I see in me
Will be stripped away
By the power of Your love

Hold me close
Let Your love surround me
Bring me near
Draw me to Your side
And as I wait
I’ll rise up like the eagle
And I will soar with You
Your Spirit leads me on
In the power of Your love

Lord unveil my eyes
Let me see You face to face
The knowledge of Your love
As You live in me
Lord renew my mind
As Your will unfolds in my life
In living every day
By the power of Your love

And I will soar with You
Your Spirit leads me on
In the power of Your love

Peace and love
TGBTG

Words from ....

My roots are planted in the past,

Though my life is changing fast,

Who I am is who I want to be.

A single mom, who works too hard,

Who loves her kids and never stops.

With gentle hands and the heart of a fighter.

I'm a survivor.

This is something that we all can be inspired about, LOL

$3.1mil, throw em up!

Wow, what a week it was for us! I just wanted to throw one out there for my awesome husband. He had his first event at Spectrum It was by far his largest event to this day! He was so busy with scripts, interviews, and writing letters. I just wanted him to know that I love him very much. I remember very distinctly one of his first events, which I will share with you...

http://www.cm-life.com/home/index.cfm?event=displayArticlePrinterFriendly&uStory_id=dcfaa64a-4a91-4996-b483-2da06873a204

There is also a fun picture of DeWayne that was cover page that day (the top pic)! He was preparing for a snowball to hit his face for one of their fundraisers that week.

I also have some distinct memories of many pancake breakfasts that DeWayne put on and is now a semesterly tradition for CMU to expect from his fraternity.

Oh how the years go by.... Love ya babe!

The return of the Ker "one 757 to the Other"

In the return of the Ker, I wrote a song, inspired by my wife (whom has pushed me to write down some of my songs). I am using the music from the Dove 2008 song of the year, Casting Crowns "East to the West". Please enjoy and submit comments and if you don't like it, just talk to my wife who is the reason that I'm be posting my song on this blog for a long time to come.


one 757 to the Other:

Here Ker is Lord and she thinking..
about the best place to start her trip
Have to forget about the Dorrian's
and their famous artichoke dip

Give her peace as she thinks about it
Let it echo in her mind
send her a goat or a star as a sign...

I know you cast of thoughts as far as
Honduras to Michigan
and Kerri pray before you now cause
she will you trust to end

But, yesterday she posted..
and she too far away
she on her behalf, we're pray

Jesus, can you show us just how
awesomely cool, we know you are
Because without you, we know were nothing
don't want to waste the time.. just tell us Please!

Your mercy is an added plus for rest...
and you know just how far Ker is
from the rest of us
one 757 to the other

Ker, when you touch down the drama began
meeting Tim and his 10 year old lil friend
Cute Issac with a smile that....
will melt right through your skin

and that day is yours Ker,
it just one big happy day
family and friends will come and play!

Jesus, can you show us just how
awesomely cool, we know you are
Because without you, we know were nothing
don't want to waste the time.. just tell us Please!

Your mercy is an added plus for rest...
and you know just how far Ker is
from rest of us
one 757 to the other

I bet your wishing you're deaf
to stay out of the family mess
Keep on praying, he will take us through
I bet it just a test

Can't live by what we feel
but by God's truth your word reveals
Ker, we're so glad to have you back
can't wait for the 18th, and thats a fact....

That really is a fact.................

Jesus, can you show us just how
awesomely cool, we know you are
Because without you, we know were nothing
don't want to waste the time.. just tell us Please!

Your mercy is an added plus for rest...
and you know just how far Ker is
from rest of us
one 757 to the other

**fade out


forewords for the song
http://music.yahoo.com/Casting-Crowns/East-To-West/lyrics/46182432

directed by TGBTG records
Off the top of my head productions, inc
Executive Producer, HS
Producer, DC

D's roundtable

A few things I really need to get off my mind....


I believe that if God is saying something to one person w/o confirmation, then maybe that person is just hearing things. What happens when he is talking to three or four, in the same circle, hmmm. What happens if we don't move when he talks to us. This is the time that we lose what is important to us. Why do we side step important issues and even joke about them, like it is nothing. Or just pretend like we don't care about certain things, people, and places.

A short story for you... their once was a kid that had a dream about a dear friend. This friend was very close to the kid and needed help most of the time. The friend shared a very valuable treasure with the kid. Well the kid got tired of helping this friend and wrote him off because he felt that the friends problems were not his. After a number of calls and signs to help, the kid refused. The kid cut all ties with the friend and the treasure b/c is was easy to forget and it did not really matter to the kid anyway. One night the kid had a dream which he felt was God sent, however did not respond. He received a call of a similar vision from another kid from another village however, did not move. The vision was confirmed and he did not move. One day the kid decided to go see his friend b/c it bothered him to much, only to find out the treasure was lost. The lost was only b/c of disobedience and the kid hopes someday he will get a chance to regain that treasure. The really lost is the time he could have taken to stop this from happening in the first place. Fixing the problem has taken almost twice to time however, just helping the friend could have protected the treasure in the first place.

What are you doing to avoid time lost with problems... Why wait!!
TGBTG

how we came, TGBTG

Our road to where we are has been a rough but trusting road. I have not really given all the praise to whom all praise is due. Thank God that we had the faith to rehearse our living testimony and for his blessing thought out this new journey. This may be a long posting!

Many people close to us know that we started to really pray for somethings financially, spiritually, and job wise for our family. We even threw up a prayer for having kids soon. The end of last year send some ups and downs but we again could continue to hear the voice of God saying... rewind what I have continually done for you and trust me. The funny thing is that, when we try to wrap our little minds around how he going to do it, instead of just doing his will and watching the miracle happen, we waste so much time. These last couple of months added stress about jobs, worry about health, and a battle about the roles in our relationship. Why can't we ever just listen?

The testimony starts off with me asking for a raise of just $2 dollars... $2 additional dollars for all the hard work and extra duties for my past employee. We really did not want Leah to have to commute to teach for the extra income. I counted on God to bless her some way and fast. Again, I was told to trust him, however, the semester before when we increased our titles and our giving to advance the kingdom... God increase us with a double blessing in Leah's job (I thought it was coming to me) and the increase took care of a lot of things. This time I followed the voice and asked for more money. Now sometimes we think that a NO mean NO. The only thing is my faith is to strong! My boss told me that there was nothing they could do and that I'm really not doing anything more than expected. I WAS DOING HER JOB!!! She could not get me any more money. So in the meantime, I got a second job to make a few more dollars... Blockbuster Video. Things for me got really bad for me over the next couple of months and my rock.. my wife helped me deal with the stress and the rejection of believing that God was not doing anything to help. I will never forgot the message that my pastor told us. As a child of God, there is nothing you can't have. If God has it for you, he will get it to you. There are blocks in our way, but the other side of confussion is blessing.

Leah and I started to sow seed into the church. We sowed seed for Leah education and just a change in my status. Then on January 21, God had moved however I did not know it. I had just got out of a meeting with my boss who told me that I'm not being a team player, and pretty much told me I sucked. Upset and just plain mad, I sat at my desk and recieve a call. A resume sent and two days later and interview. How does that happen... and why would one of the biggest Michigan Hospital be seeking me out. Excited and scared at the same time. Its funny that we want God to move, but when he does we ask a million and one questions about the open door. Leah and I had so many questions about the house, her school, and gas. Again we trusted!

When thing feel right...they just feel right. God blessed us beyond my expectations by doubling me to a point where my check represents both my current and Leah current income combined. Thank you Jesus! We were able to rent our house out to a lovely expecting couple and even sign on to a townhouse in Grand Rapids that we both love. Leah will be pursuing her Doctoral degree from Western Michigan with all expenses paid. We are in the mist of fighting for our families in spiritual battles. Why did he pick Grand Rapids for us. I have to admit, I miss the heck out of my nieces and nephews but I got a second chance. I have a beautiful nephew named Issac whom I would give the world to. He's got some awesome people looking out for him. We are so blessed to a point of awe. I love my job and know this is my ticket to a dream that I thought I lost, knowing my rib had to be praying for me. I have always wanted to be an executive director for a Foundation by 30 years old. Leah I love you so much.. thanks for remembering those things and being so supportive. This is why, I will never stop giving back to God, the church, and anyone who needs help. I know where I came from... not going back! I can't beat him giving, no matter how hard I try. So for all who wanted to know, that's how and why we are here.

TGBTG

Destiny

One of the things that has been impressed upon my heart are thoughts concerning our (my) destiny. It's awesome to know and believe that the chosen path you take has already been prepared for you and God already knows where you will go, who you will meet, whom shall you follow and who you shall work for/with while here on earth. So, here are a few verses that I have captured to grow more in my faith and believing the destiny He's prepared for me to work in His Kingdom doing His kingdom business.

The Lord will always lead you. He will satisfy your needs in dry lands and give strength to your bones. You will be like a garden that has much water, like a spring that never runs dry. Isaiah 58:11

People make plans in their minds, but only the Lord can make them come true. Depend on the Lord in whatever you do, and your plans will succeed. Proverbs 16:1,3
This verse really speaks to me that we just need to speak to Him and He already knows what we need... He's just waiting for that prayerful act of submission - a request and spoken desire.

Do not change yourselves to be like the people of this world, but be changed within by a new way of thinking. Then you will be able to decide what God wants for you; you will know what is good and pleasing to him and what is perfect. Romans 12:2

Be blessed

Raindrops and Memories

Today I am reminded of a childhood song:
It's raining, it's pouring;
The old man is snoring.
Bumped his head
And he went to bed
And he couldn't get up in the morning.

Memories are can be a scary reality but they also can be happy. It's interesting to me to compare memories of old college times and even growing up and see how different we may have viewed certain times.

I am reminded of the time DeWayne and I were just dating in the summer of 2003. We talked the whole night through and saw our first sunrise together. Last night, I woke up and went downstairs to realize that he was awake. We talked and went to breakfast and would have seen our second sunrise (if it wasn't cloudy) together.

I was telling DeWayne the other day of the "everyday shirt" song that Ker used to sing. I guess I only remember the chorus... Since, the more we hang out with MG, D finds out more stuff about my(our) childhood than I might have let on. Thanks, Marc Daniel. But, it makes us who we are, that's for sure. :-) It would be neat to have a written collection of our memories from our childhood. My siblings and I didn't always have the easiest childhood/early adulthood, but we did make some great memories as individuals, siblings, son and daughters, and grandchildren. We forget those great times and they need to be remembered more often.

Here's a few that I can think of:
Fresh bread from Hilltop from Grandma D.
Cooking/playing with my sisters in the 5-headed trees up north
Mom driving us to GCS
Flowers and cake for every birthday (spam for kerri's birthday!)
Running in the mailbox on my new bike... lol

What is your love language?

Words of Affirmation

Mark Twain once said “I can live for two months on a good compliment.” Verbal appreciation speaks powerfully to persons whose primary Love Language is “Words of Affirmation.” Simple statements, such as, “You look great in that suit,” or “You must be the best baker in the world! I love your oatmeal cookies,” are sometimes all a person needs to hear to feel loved.

Aside from verbal compliments, another way to communicate through “Words of Affirmation” is to offer encouragement. Here are some examples: reinforcing a difficult decision; calling attention to progress made on a current project; acknowledging a person’s unique perspective on an important topic. If a loved one listens for “Words of Affirmation,” offering encouragement will help him or her to overcome insecurities and develop greater confidence.

Quality Time
Quality time is more than mere proximity. It’s about focusing all your energy on your mate. A husband watching sports while talking to his wife is NOT quality time. Unless all of your attention is focused on your mate, even an intimate dinner for two can come and go without a minute of quality time being shared.

Quality conversation is very important in a healthy relationship. It involves sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. A good mate will not only listen, but offer advice and respond to assure their mate they are truly listening. Many mates don’t expect you to solve their problems. They need a sympathetic listener.

An important aspect of quality conversation is self-revelation. In order for you to communicate with your mate, you must also be in tune with your inner emotions. It is only when you understand your emotions and inner feelings will you then be able to share quality conversation, and quality time with your mate.

Quality activities are a very important part of quality time. Many mates feel most loved when they spend physical time together, doing activities that they love to do. Spending time together will bring a couple closer, and, in the years to come, will fill up a memory bank that you can reminisce about in the future.
Whether it’s sitting on the couch and having a brief conversation or playing together in a tennis league, quality time is a love language that is shared by many. Setting aside focused time with your mate will ensure a happy marriage.

Receiving Gifts
Some mates respond well to visual symbols of love. If you speak this love language, you are more likely to treasure any gift as an expression of love and devotion. People who speak this love language often feel that a lack of gifts represents a lack of love from their mate. Luckily, this love language is one of the easiest to learn.

If you want to become an effective gift giver, many mates will have to learn to change their attitude about money. If you are naturally a spender, you will have no trouble buying gifts for your mate. However, a person who is used to investing and saving their money may have a tough time adjusting to the concept of spending money as an expression of love. These people must understand that you are investing the money not in gifts, but in deepening your relationship with your mate.

The gift of self is an important symbol of love. Sometimes all your mate desires is for someone to be there for them, going through the same trials and experiencing the same things. Your body can become a very powerful physical symbol of love.

These gifts need not to come every day, or even every week. They don’t even need to cost a lot of money. Free, frequent, expensive, or rare, if your mate relates to the language of receiving gifts, any visible sign of your love will leave them feeling happy and secure in your relationship.

Acts of Service
Sometimes simple chores around the house can be an undeniable expression of love. Even simple things like laundry and taking out the trash require some form of planning, time, effort, and energy. Just as Jesus demonstrated when he washed the feet of his disciples, doing humble chores can be a very powerful expression of love and devotion to your mate.

Very often, both pairs in a couple will speak to the Acts of Service Language. However, it is very important to understand what acts of service your mate most appreciates. Even though couples are helping each other around the house, couples will still fight because the are unknowingly communicating with each other in two different dialects. For example, a wife may spend her day washing the cars and walking the dog, but if her husband feels that laundry and dishes are a superior necessity, he may feel unloved, despite the fact that his wife did many other chores throughout the day. It is important to learn your mate’s dialect and work hard to understand what acts of service will show your love.

It is important to do these acts of service out of love and not obligation. A mate who does chores and helps out around the house out of guilt or fear will inevitably not be speaking a language of love, but a language of resentment. It’s important to perform these acts out of the kindness of your heart.

Demonstrating the acts of service can mean stepping out of the stereotypes. Acts of service require both mates to humble themselves into doing some chores and services that aren’t usually expected from their gender. However, these little sacrifices will mean the world to your mate, and will ensure a happy relationship.

Physical Touch
Many mates feel the most loved when they receive physical contact from their partner. For a mate who speaks this love language loudly, physical touch can make or break the relationship.

Sexual intercourse makes many mates feel secure and loved in a marriage. However, it is only one dialect of physical touch. Many parts of the body are extremely sensitive to stimulation. It is important to discover how your partner not only physically responds but also psychologically responds to these touches.

It is important to learn how your mate speaks the physical touch language. Some touches are irritating and uncomfortable for your mate. Take the time to learn the touches your mate likes. They can be big acts, such as back massages or lovemaking, or little acts such as touches on the cheek or a hand on the shoulder. It’s important to learn how your mate responds to touch. That is how you will make the most of this love language.

All marriages will experience crisis. In these cases, physical touch is very important. In a crisis situation, a hug can communicate an immense amount of love for that person. A person whose primary love language is physical touch would much rather have you hold them and be silent than offer any advice.

It is important to remember that this love language is different for everyone. What type of touch makes you feel secure is not necessarily what will make your partner happy. It is important to learn each other’s dialects. That way you can make the most of your hugging, kissing, and other physical contacts.

stress, worry -- where's the joy?!

So, today I was face with many thoughts, emotions, and crazy ideas. Looking back, it's sad to me how my stressful life has taken advantage of things. In a way, its like a little devil that just needs to be stomped out of my life. It can eliminate the simple pleasures in life and make not so important things very large... not to say situations weren't preventable or not important. So, right now I am taking the time to remember the some of the special, simple and important things in my life - coming back with some joy!

praying with my husband
hearing I love you, or have I told you lately....
snuggling
going to church
hangin' with Ike
teaching my classes, but not pig dissections!
cooking dinner
going to the movies
being outside
swimming
baking
taking a hot shower

But, one of the things I am also realizing... is joy does not come by doing something for me or myself. When I was very young, I remember hearing that if you aren't having the greatest day or feeling down - try to make someone else's day brighter and make them smile. Its not really easy to do... but its a great start to be out of the downer. And let me say this... I am not perfect when it comes to finding true joy and eliminating worry, but I am slowly learning with mistakes, one day (or hour) at a time.

LJ

april fools of sorts...

It been awhile since I have posted to this spot or such but I got so much to tell the world about the blessings in my life. I have invaded the city of Grand Rapids as one of the coordinator of annual giving for Children's Miracle Network and Spectrum-Health. The way this happen is beyond me b/c yet again God has moved and opened up doors that I swore were closed. It something about favor from God... its never deserved, nor is it ever earned. Thanks for taking care of my family, Lord, and allowing us to give and advance your kingdom.

I really miss my nieces and nephews on my side of the family b/c I have not seen them in a while.. or even know where they are. Please continue to pray for my family b/c we need it! Safety, wisdom, and protection are just a few words you could throw up if you would like. The way things are changing on both sides are a tad scary in itself. Wisdom is very valuable when we are making decision, so Lord please grace us with your wisdom.

I am really investing time into my family b/c I feel life is to short, and the way things have always been ain't (if thats a word) good enough anymore. I got friends losing family members left and right. I don't want to regret not taking the time to care, love, thank, give, or even tell my family how much I appreciate them. Hey gals and guys... I really love you all.

My brother got married a few weeks ago, right outside of Washington DC. I traveled there and sat down as the best man. I miss hanging out with my brother. We had a close relationship during our childhood. I'm still working to keep him close but being a few states away makes it a tad harder. It really cool to have another sister to bother and drive crazy.

Finally, my wife is going to Western to get her PHd in biological studies for science teachers. She is very excited and I'm happy that Leah is happy. God is really during a new thing in our relationship. I am so amazed at where we have come from and our mind frame is that everything we have is his anyway. Thats why I have no problem giving it back to him.

TGBTG

Photobooth at Gala

Just a normal pic!

Joys of owning a home

We are so blessed to have this beautiful home. We are being good stewards of what He's given us. But, these birds are just not getting the hint.

Then we have our car-eating pothole outside our driveway!

My Solid Rock

Another week and wow this one is packed with all the good things that God has done for us. Things for this family are taking off with the key work being tri-fecta. We are looking for God hand to move on something and he is opening doors that we never saw coming. also want to share a special story bout a odd rock I found, lol.

So I decided that I have a rock in my life that continues to be hard, shiny, and non-conforming even in the worst of times. I'm really blessed to have this rock with me b/c, well it represents a lot in the past couple of months to me. I took the time to look up with a rock means and the dictionary came up with some cool meanings; It actually came up with 14 meanings of this word and some really do apply to my personal rock in my life.

1. a large mass of stone forming a hill, cliff, promontory, or the like. My rock has provide some hills for me to use to get over some issues I have had on my job, in my relationships, my spiritual walk, and even in my self. Sometime I felt like my rock is the only thing I can stand on when thing are kicking my teeth in!

Then there is 2. a firm foundation or support: The Lord is my rock. My God is truly my foundation however, he was clever enough to give us some support and a help meet. I can always count on my rock when I'm in a jam to help me out. Heck, laugh at my lame joke when everyone thinks I'm totally nuts! You have to be a rock to hang support some of the things that I have come up with. Thank God for that help meet, I could not imagine not having my pale color rock to lean, on.

3. get one's rocks off, Slang: Vulgar. to have an "o" face. Hey, its our blog... the rating is PG 13. My rock makes me feel like a man. I appreciate just talking to the rock or holding the rock. The rock know just about everything about me and just know how to make me smile.

Hey, I felt the need to express myself and talk about the rock I found some 4 years and 9 months ago. I'm so glad God felt the need to provide dreams and connect the path to my rock. Rock is also slang for diamond, rubies, and other fine rocks! In a men bible class taught by some of my elder in my cool church (Detroit World Outreach) throw em up!!! They told us that a woman was worth far more than rubies (proverbs 31:10) "Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies". So I decide to check out the Internet on the going price of a exceptional ruby (b/c Good doesn't really mess with crappy stuff) and found that a certified untreated ruby can fetch more that 224k. That may to some be small, except God did use the "ies" on the word so I bet he meant more than one.. what do you think??? My rock is worth a lot!!

Leah thanks for being my ruby in a sense and I wish I could have just told you this however, you are only one to make me tense up when I need to show you some love. Thank you Dad.. for my rock.

TGBTG
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Many thoughts and prayers

There are so many things that we have at His feet right now. Things that we don't understand and things that we don't know how it will all work out. But we can have peace that His work is going to prosper. We are His workers in His field.

Feeling kinda nutty!!

We caved in....

No.. we are not having a baby! Leah created a blogger b/c she felt we need one. All I want to talk about is this cool lil kid I know. You all should meet him b/c he's cool! I mean beyond like awesome.. he really like cool. His name is Isaac (Ike Dawg) and truly a blessing to our family. OK, I'm done, please pray for the move of God in our lives. We are waiting on a few things and I know he will continue to speak into our lives and have his way. Check out a cool pic of Isaac... I'm thinking about posting him on hot or not, j/k.




TGBTG
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